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Five Ways to Prepare for 2015: Get Light


Read that correctly! I didn’t say “get lit,” I said “get light.” We need to take a lesson from that fourth wise man and “Follow Our Star.” Do you realize that each of us HAS a star? Once we’re aware of that, we’ll want to become committed to following that light, the path of our own individual destinies. As we learn to follow our star, we’ll learn to be true to ourselves, true to our beliefs, true to our individual uniqueness, and true to our own passions. Sounds like a big assignment. It is. Sounds like a scary assignment. It is. No more mob mentality and following the masses. Let’s outgrow peer pressure. Let’s evolve into the single, separate, different, delightful human we are each uniquely intended to be. And let’s make this a goal for 2015. We’re going to get light.

Now, I know you’re paying attention, so you’re wondering about the difference between “get lean” (November 30th blog) and “get light” (today’s topic). When we talked about getting lean, we talked about unloading everything that no longer fits. We focused on sorting and sifting and discovering what really mattered to us that we wanted to take along into 2015. In effect, we were talking about packing.

Then we moved on to “get laughing” (December 6th blog). Laughing is a word to describe the attitude we are adopting as we move into 2015. Really, folks, we are taking these lives of ours much too seriously. Being respectful about life is essential. Being so serious about everything is exhausting and egotistical. We need lighter hearts which can catch the hilarity of humanity.

Then last week we concentrated on love. Laughter and love together are a perfect formula for “how” to proceed into 2015. If we’re focused on love, we’ll never laugh AT other people but always be prepared to laugh at ourselves. Yesterday in church we were having a hymn sing and the minister suggested singing “Oh, Come, All Ye Faithful,” which we had sung thirty minutes before to open the service. As the piano player, I said quietly to her, “We sang that to start the service.” She laughed out loud and said to the congregation, “Oh, we already sang that, didn’t we? Can you tell it’s my favorite Christmas Carol?”

And now today, packed and ready to head lean, laughing, and loving into 2015, we are going to concentrate on “where” we’re going. We are going to (hopefully) realize that we each have a unique destiny, and we can find it by following our own inner light.

Do you know the Michael Ashworth song lyrics for “Follow Your Star”? Here are a few of the ideas he put to music:

Every dream is the start of a journey,

Every journey begins with hope,

So when darkness falls on your every road

It’s the only thing you need to know: Follow Your Star.

Earlier in the song he wrote that for the Wise Men “their destiny was far away, down roads they’d never gone.” I think that is true for us when we choose to follow our star, too. The crowd is going one way, and although we may overlap with them sometimes, following our own star is more frequently a solitary adventure. Do you know why? Because in this world of seven billion souls, no one else has been given our destiny, our assignment, our upbringing, our unique set of gifts, our personality and temperament, our charm, our flaws, our talents, and our roadblocks. Of course we have to find our own way. It wouldn’t be “OUR OWN WAY” if others were on the same path.

How do we begin being true to ourselves and heeding the still, small voice within? Some of us are aware that we are intuitive, some not so much. Some of us are always looking for sign posts along the way, signs given by earth angels and birds and all things from the natural Bible. Some of us read maps, learning how others have tried and failed and tried again to get to their destinations, not because they actually knew where they were going, but because they trusted the process of getting there.

Following our beliefs must certainly be the hallmark of a good pilgrim. What do you believe in? Are you religious, spiritual, atheist, or pagan? People vehemently disagree with me, but I believe there are many roads to heaven. I believe the road each of us is intended to be on will be a path that is “sympatico” for us. We need to start wherever we are, and then decide at every crossroads which road beckons to us. Along the way we will find people, and we will lose people. A cousin of mine wrote today that he had come to faith late in life, and that in the finding of his faith and the following of his star, he had become estranged from some close family members. It’s a price we have to be willing to pay. Nothing is cheap, but character, self-honesty, self-loyalty and integrity are priceless.

You know the saying, “To thine own self be true?” I always thought that was Plato. I looked it up. Polonius says that in Shakespeare’s Hamlet. Socrates said, “Be true to thine own self.” Probably ever sage and wise person who has walked the earth has voiced some version of this truth. If we are not true to ourselves, as we understand the ever fluctuating truth – because every moment of every day we learn new things and have to reconfigure just what is the truth for us – then we cannot be true to anything. I don’t always like people who are acting from a place of deep, individual truth, but I always respect them and frequently admire them.

If you are unaware of your own intuition and voice, start small and get acquainted. Sit still. You can’t even hear your own voice when you’re running around like a chicken with its head cut off, being responsible and “achieving” things. A very scattered woman I know who is presently running around like one of those chickens, told me a funny story. She had been up at midnight the night before baking gingerbread men, and all their heads fell off. Pay attention if all your gingerbread men are losing their heads. It could be a metaphor. Or, perhaps, you just need a better cookie cutter. (Me? I like to be in the midst of some good dreams by midnight. Just saying. Pepperidge Farms makes better gingerbread men than I do, anyhow.)

In addition to listening to our intuition to help us follow our star, we also need to be aware of our uniqueness. In my case, I call this my idiosyncrasy. Use whatever word you like. In the Support Letters and Guides to Healing which Pillar of Light Foundation introduced this week, I am talking for the next two months about the Myers-Briggs and the helpful way the results teach us about ourselves. (See:,, or visit If you are a subscriber, we’ll be taking this test, and I’ll be explaining how it can help guide recovery from PTSD, anxiety or depression. You can always go on line and take the Myers-Briggs and then look it up and read about it yourself. Knowing how we’re “wired” is incredibly useful when we’re determining our starlit path.


We also want to pay attention to our “passions.” When we are walking in harmony with our passions, we are walking in rhythm and flow. You know when you are doing things you love that your heart is light, and you’re living in a state of grace and hope and faith. Carl Jung said, “Follow your bliss.” Do what you love and you will be provided for. But chase after money or fame or security or acceptance, and you will be chasing your tail. Even when a dog catches his tail, all he accomplishes is biting himself.

So, let’s get light for 2015. Dante, around 1300, said, “Follow your own star.” Susan, in 2014, is passing on the word, and you don’t even have to wade through The Divine Comedy to get the word.

Peace, blessings, and Merry Christmas, susan

Photography by Mary Ellen Jelen, bless her heart


December 20, 2014 at 2:13 AM 1 comment

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